I AM GOOD, I AM ENOUGH, I AM GOOD ENOUGH.

Have you ever felt not GOOD ENOUGH? Have you doubted your SELF? I think everyone of us has experienced this at some time in our life in so many different situations.

Have you ever felt that you’ve wanted to pursue a dream in your heart or a certain pathway but found that your mind or internal dialogue convinces you it’s not the time because your life isn’t perfect yet? Do you question your SELF?

Do you think;

What right do I have to try to help others when I have so much work to do on myself?

Perhaps it’s a career path that you’ve always wanted to take but your mind convinces you that you’re just wasting your time.

Who am I to do this?

I’ve made mistakes in the past.

What will people think of me?

I couldn’t possibly make money out of this and how will I get from where I am now to where I want to be?

Or perhaps, we believe other people are MORE qualified. It could be anything.

Because of our internal dialogue and fear-based thinking we talk ourselves out of stepping out into our life purpose. For each of us it’s a slightly different story but the struggle is real, and it’s something we ALL have to overcome in order to grow.

Mistakes!

We have all made mistakes and it is the only way we learn. Well we should be learning from them!

When we continue doing things over and over achieving the same negative result we probably need to take some time to discover why this is so.

The same though for success, once we find our path, we can build our confidence and grow our knowledge one step at a time. If I go to school for example and want to learn about something new, I don’t feel particularly confident because its NEW and I’ve never done it before. A university student feels this way when they start but after learning for a few years their confidence grows with each step they take. Each day, each class, each exam…builds confidence in their chosen pathway. Understandably a 4th year Uni student has a lot more confidence than a 1st year student. So, don’t fear not knowing or not feeling confident, when you start something, trust yourself, you will grow into your position.

I’ve just recently completed an accredited course in Forgiveness Life Coaching. This year I am working towards a Diploma in Life Coaching and an accreditation in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.

I chose these courses because last year when I was up-skilling I became a sponge for learning new skills. This year I have more focus on where I am going. I have excitedly chosen these subjects in agreement with who I am. I’ve found people come to me for advice anyway and I love helping people…so I want to make sure I’m giving good sound advice that will help them become strong, secure and independent people, who can choose wisely for their own life.

Is my life perfect though? No…my life isn’t perfect…but whose life is? I…am definitely not perfect nor do I have any desire to be perfect. My desire is to be my SELF and become the best version of my SELF!

What I do have though is the desire to help people realize their worth and value. I want to help people progress in their life and experience genuine happiness from within themselves.

What I do have is happiness which is a result of how I treat others.

What I do have is the ability to honestly look at myself and take responsibility for my actions.

Our Mind!

Our mind, our SELF talk, or internal dialogue if negative, will stop us from realizing our potential. These self-limiting beliefs keep us STUCK in a neutral position…and NOT rocking any boats. Ever heard the saying “don’t rock the boat”?

Do you know what that saying actually means? ‘Don’t say or do something to disturb an existing situation and upset people. It also can mean to alter the sequence of events or a procedure that everyone accepts and does not wish to change.

Oh…wow…I can think of so many boats that need rocking!!! Why not rock the boat?

Do you fear what other people think about you…? Fear of what people “think” is the most crippling of all thoughts in my opinion.

My question is…What does it matter what people think?

Jesus himself when teaching in his home town and performing healing miracles was rejected. The comments made about him were “Isn’t he the carpenter’s son?”

People have a way of making up their minds about you even though you may have moved on, changed, grown, or developed yourself.

How I see this is these are not your people. If people want to remember who you were and don’t wish to discover whom you are now, then move on to greener pastures where you can influence and make a difference. How many people started out in their young years addicted to substance abuse or where incredibly needy (that was me) lonely (that was me also) and made poor choices, but TODAY they are helping thousands of people get their lives on track. Where we started is not where we need to end up. We can absolutely navigate our ow life.

There are always going to be people who can’t see what we see…and often it’s the people in our own circle or our own family.

It’s the people who 'think' they know us…whom try to limit us…IF we allow them too.

Remember the great teacher himself JESUS was disregarded initially only to have shaken the dust of his feet leaving his home town, and went to where he was accepted, loved and appreciated. He went where he could make the most difference.

What people think is NOT our concern and when we get to the end of our life…and we realize I cared too much about what people thought and never realized my full potential. This is a really sad situation for anybody.

We are good!

We are all inherently GOOD people doing the best we can with what we know right now. Some of us a very SELF aware and able to be SELF reflective (this is a topic I will do in another Podcast) when we become aware that’s when we change. Our choices should always reflect our goodness.

GOOD or BAD is only a concept we have been taught. We believe something to be GOOD or BAD but actually it’s all good. Mistakes aren’t bad nor is failure. Every mistake or failure leads us to greater understanding of ourselves. Think about a time you failed or made a mistake in your own eyes or in the eyes of another person. What did you learn about yourself through that situation?

We are enough!

Everything we will ever need to succeed in life is already within us. We just need to embrace the journey.

I am enough…You are enough. YOU REALLY ARE!

So how can we move forward with our life?

It’s EASY…One step at a time…one day at a time.

Simply take A step.

In 2018 I made the decision to write my book and I gave myself one year to achieve it. Even though I floundered around and wasted a lot of time during that year, I had been unconsciously working toward that personal goal. Thought by thought, quote by quote, word by word, and after 11 months I was writing - chapter by chapter…get my drift! One decision and one step at a time.

In 2009 I decided to put on the Spring Gospel Music and Arts Festival in Perth, which had been an idea I had had for a couple of years. I trusted myself to know when it would be the right time. Timing is really important when it comes to stepping out in such a huge public way. My vision was to put on a weekend music festival run entirely by volunteers, including myself. Once I had chosen the street venue which was Lake St, in Northbridge, I was focused on moving towards seeing this Festival actually happening. I contacted not for profit organizations all around the city seeking support, sponsorship and partnerships. I located key people and created a leadership team of passionate people to lead their particular field of expertise. I rallied for volunteers, and sought out donations from local businesses. It was during that time I realized I needed a decent sized grant to pay for the road closures, professional security, toilets, multimedia large screen, all the staging and sound.

I applied to Lottery-West and a week before the Festival I received a call confirming we had secured a $15,000 dollar grant which enabled everything to be paid for in full. Also, during the process, I had to seek approval from the City of Perth, apply for permits, notify local residents, and attend meetings with the Northbridge business key stakeholders and Sunsets Events.

The festival ran on the same weekend as the Northbridge Festival so we even though completely separate we were able to hold the event under their insurance so it saved us lots of money. Because we were all volunteers, we received a lot of favour and appreciation for our efforts.

5400 people, not including the children, attended our event over the two days. 100's of volunteers!

FIRST, I made the decision to do it…and each step I took were intentional towards the end result that I wanted. Each step I took led me to more growth and readiness within my self to make it happen. The personal effort involved was especially intense one month out from the date but I had been working strategically towards the festival for 6 months. Auditioning musicians, holding leadership meeting and creating a multicultural mix of all the different art forms. Music, bands, choirs, all forms of dance, drama, an art exhibition, live art street painting, clowns handing out balloons to the children. rides for the little ones, street games and stalls.

It was a step by step process when I decided to do it. I first had to decide, (make a decision) then I had to take action. Once I started taking action…the steps appeared and I knew what I needed to do.

I think sometimes because we are not sure of ALL the steps…we don’t take the first one. We worry that we will start and then fail…because we are not sure or don’t trust our self to be able handle everything. I can understand why you might feel this way…however its not a good enough reason to not pursue your dream, your goals, your vision or your hearts-desire…whatever you want to call that inner directional knowing… that is encouraging you to move towards a certain direction for your life.

Your Dream!

Your dream is your responsibility to actualize, to make happen and to accomplish. Nobody can help you with the actual decision. Nobody can tell you when the right time is…YOU WILL KNOW! If you follow that knowing within your SELF you will blow your own mind at just how ready and able you are to do what is in your heart to do. You do not need anyone’s permission to pursue your dream and if you give in to what someone else thinks, is RIGHT for you…then you have given up the essence of all that makes you…YOU. That’s a very, very, very, high price to pay for a relationship. They may believe or think they are helping and they possibly mean well…BUT it not up to them they are only responsible for themselves. If you take advice from others it’s not okay to BLAME them for unhappiness because you didn’t do what you know you needed to. It is your responsibility to find and pursue your purpose. Remember we get to choose whom we shall BE. YOU are enough… whom will you choose to BE?

You are good enough!

You are absolutely able to do what is in your heart. Who put the idea there? Where did the idea or passion come from? It’s now your responsibility to see it come to fruition.

100% YOUR responsibility.

We will never FEEL ready…We will always feel like there’s more personal work to be done BUT can’t we work on our own ‘perceived’ flaws (whether imagined or real) as we follow our heart.

As we move forward with our life, we will grow the person we are anyway and those voices inside our mind ‘saying we are not good enough’ disappear over time. The ability to understand that our own EGO mind is our enemy, NOT what people think about us. Rather it is what we ‘think’ about ourselves which is our greatest battle.

Everyone feels unsure when they start something new. EVERYONE!!

Some people will start regardless of feeling somewhat fearful and other people never start because they are afraid to fail.

When you start this journey towards your dream it doesn’t mean that you will end up where you initially thought you would. Be prepared to be flexible and open in your approach rather than staunch and steadfast expecting everything to work out as YOU plan. We cannot control outside influences and other people’s actions…we can only control ourselves.

Some people will love us on our journey and some will hate what we are doing but it doesn’t matter either way. Whether we are loved or hated is not our concern. We just need to BE authentically true to our SELF.

Shakespeare’s verse 'to thine own self be true,' he wasn’t talking about an external authenticity he was talking about to thine OWN SELF be true. Not pursuing what is in our heart means we are not being true to our SELF.

Perfection doesn’t exist!

Perfection is unattainable so forget achieving that…just be the best YOU…you can be and treat others the way YOU want to be treated. That’s about as perfect as you’re going to get. And still people will treat you undesirably but that’s not your problem. It is theirs! Let them BE who they choose and you move forward with your life.

I AM GOOD, I AM ENOUGH, I AM GOOD ENOUGH

Say this over your life everyday if you need to. Believe that you can do what is in your heart to do.

YOU WILL EXPERIENCE SUCCESS IF YOU TAKE SMALL STEPS TOWARD YOUR INNER DIRECTIONAL KNOWING…OR YOUR HEART’S DESIRE… EVEN IF YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT THE FINAL RESULT WILL BE.

Usually a life purpose is inclusive of other people in some way helping them…and doesn’t come out of our own ego.

Have you ever met a person who wants to be a famous singer but they cannot sing…or someone jumps on the share-trading wagon thinking they are going to make their millions?

If what we are trying to achieve is for selfish reasons, its hard work all the way…but if we are following our life purpose we are filled with excitement, fulfillment, passion, an extraordinary ability to produce work of a high standard, proficient and enthusiastic, with a never-ending supply of energy.

It’s actually easy because you’re being true to your SELF…you’re NOT going against your own flow…and you only get to that place after taking that very first step.

So, can I ask you…what is your step?

What is the first step you should take?

What steps do you know you need to take?

If you don’t know what your path is yet just follow a subject, sport or interest that you love and trust that at the right time you will get directive clarity.

Did you want to learn about marketing? The first step would be enrolling in a course!

Did you want to learn to play the piano? Your first step would be to find a teacher and start learning.

Most times our desire is so small, underdeveloped, in seed form, not nurtured. If I were to hand you a seed…with no explanation as to what it will grow into. You can look at it, you can play with it, you can try to work out what type of seed it is, you could even seek advice from a horticulturalist as ask them what their opinion is or whether they know what type of seed it is. A seed in its self, is not that attractive.

Unless you actually put that seed into the ground, at the right time…and look after it, you will never know its potential. You will never experience its full beauty.

Ignoring our SELF is like an un-planted or un-nurtured seed.

Our SELF has unlimited potential to grow, to become beautiful and eventually...to reproduce its SELF.

YOU ARE ALL YOU NEED AND YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH!

PODCAST AVAILABLE _ written by Teresa de Mouilpied-Moore Feb 2020