OUR CHILDREN TEACH US
- Teresa de Mouilpied-Moore
- Aug 22, 2022
- 3 min read
Our children are the gifts sent to us to teach us something about ourselves!
Once the precious soul arrives…HERE they ARE - a ‘mini human’ being, trustingly looks into our eyes, and suddenly life has new meaning and direction for anyone blessed to be a parent!
The other night I had a dream where I was speaking in my ‘dream state,’ to a mother who was at a loss on how to parent one of her children. She told me she had two children, one compliant and easy to raise. The other child was strong willed and constantly challenged her. I reached over, touched her arm, and with heartfelt love I spoke these words to the mother;
“Your children are here for your spiritual benefit and growth. The child who is NOT easy to raise, is NOT the one that needs to change anything about who they are…it is YOU that needs to change. This child, will help you to become a better person.”
In other words, this (naughty, problem, bad, strong willed) child will be the ONE who teaches you to be more understanding, less judgemental, patient, loving and accepting. This child, will bring light to areas of your own life you need to become aware of…and modify.
Our children are a GIFT to us regardless of whether we ‘wanted’ that gift or not, and we need to understand we don’t own them. We are entrusted with them for a short moment in time to teach, model and inspire our children to independently SUCCEED in life, being exactly who they are.
Many parents fail their children because they don’t love and accept them for exactly who they are. Many parents fail their children because they don’t teach them to love and accept themselves. Many parents are not instilling core values which enables a child to navigate their life according to those values.
Parents fail their children by being so ‘busy’ on their own social devices, that deep communication and true connection are non-existent within the family unit. Literally, iPads are raising their children and because of this children seem to be ‘somewhat’ socially delayed, disengaged with life, lack eye contact, and uneasy in the company of other humans, especially adults! This should be concerning!
Parents can turn this all around by modelling the behaviour, values and approach to life (attitude) we want to see and enjoy in our children.
Once they are teenagers or grown adults it will be a little more difficult to influence them in a healthy way, BUT absolutely do-able and achievable with patience, love and acceptance. We cannot ASK, or expect other people (even if they are our own children) to do what we ourselves don’t and won’t do.
It’s our responsibility as parents who are entrusted with these young innocent souls, to raise them up knowing that it’s okay to be exactly who they are, and teach them essential life skills so they can live their BEST life - loving themselves - loving others - and - being loved!
Once they become adults, it is up-to our children to live their OWN lives, take FULL responsibility for themselves, THEIR actions, choices and decisions without our interference, unless of course, they ask us for advice! If you don’t like what your children are doing, their attitude or how they are being, take some time to honestly look at what you are doing, your attitude and how you are being.
Teresa De Mouilpied-Moore - Author/Life Coach/Social Psychologist, CBT Practitioner/Podcaster #lifecoaching #children #parenting
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